tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post9022183640359214959..comments2023-10-30T08:00:54.059-04:00Comments on Laurel's Leaves: Yes, I can? Affirmations for the pessimisticLaurel Garverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-27651337400236355932015-09-16T15:39:22.617-04:002015-09-16T15:39:22.617-04:00Yeah, I think the key workd there is "afraid....Yeah, I think the key workd there is "afraid." I've heard some call pessimists "hedge your bets" types, who want to emotionally prepare if things don't work out. There's definitely a propensity to fear there that needs to be wrestled out in order to move forward.Laurel Garverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-19371201237285111642015-09-07T21:58:46.977-04:002015-09-07T21:58:46.977-04:00Maybe we should say "afraid of disappointment...Maybe we should say "afraid of disappointment" instead of "pessimist"? That often drives my thoughts when I lower the bar or tell myself something I want won't work out. Fortunately, I have an optimist husband who constantly models optimistic thinking for me. He's right more often than I am, with all my gloomy predictions. it helps to have someone call me it on it when I say "always" or "never" as part of a pessimistic statement.<br /><br />Great article, and I love your ideas for how to challenge pessimistic thinking so that you can move forward.Kithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238326701248982750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-63896719218394549412015-08-20T14:42:25.972-04:002015-08-20T14:42:25.972-04:00Pessimists need to wrestle out their determination...Pessimists need to wrestle out their determination and hope; it doesn't tend to come naturally. But that's okay, the world needs all kinds of people. Laurel Garverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-10116407549040043322015-08-20T14:37:13.933-04:002015-08-20T14:37:13.933-04:00Harder but not impossible to be positive. Types li...Harder but not impossible to be positive. Types like us need more than thin platitudes because we tend to think deeply about things. Laurel Garverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-31901498999728513062015-08-20T14:32:52.568-04:002015-08-20T14:32:52.568-04:00Funny that you notice how both optimists and pessi...Funny that you notice how both optimists and pessimists feel they see reality, which is usually neither 100% fabulous or 100% awful, but always a mix. I find looking at my own history helps with these inner struggles--seeing where I have improved from the past, or have been able to accomplish something similarly difficult.Laurel Garverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-59331464454254330002015-08-20T14:09:17.848-04:002015-08-20T14:09:17.848-04:00What a great list to look at whenever anyone is fe...What a great list to look at whenever anyone is feeling pessimistic about things that are happening in their life (especially if someone has a natural tendency to be more pessimistic as his/her personality)!!! Thanks, Laurel. :)Carol Riggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092209912983783974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-9272535042202082852015-08-20T08:18:24.951-04:002015-08-20T08:18:24.951-04:00I've always been a glass have empty kind of pe...I've always been a glass have empty kind of person but in a way it's good because it forces me to work harder at being positive. Karen Jones Gowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11378428503220197256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-90969234949307882212015-08-19T10:59:52.223-04:002015-08-19T10:59:52.223-04:00This is an excellent and wise post, Laurel. I thin...This is an excellent and wise post, Laurel. I think of myself as a realist, too, even though I'm probably an optimist. (I guess we all think we're seeing the "real" story, though, huh? :) Normally it's easy for me to say, "Hey, I just gotta keep working at it!" but on bad days, I need to dose myself with something even realer than my brain's chant of "You're not good enough." When that happens, my answer is, "Nope. I'm not good enough. But I'm not going to get any better by giving in and stopping."Faith E. Houghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03823750019164801104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-51742898388933055992015-08-19T10:13:56.563-04:002015-08-19T10:13:56.563-04:00The struggling to be patient affirmation might be ...The struggling to be patient affirmation might be helpful to you. Also the I feel stuck. These will help you look at your own history for hope, rather than empty cheerleader chants. Laurel Garverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657218435228802535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4263988256560129564.post-77140849921852775132015-08-19T09:27:09.508-04:002015-08-19T09:27:09.508-04:00"...we have to own our own temperaments...&qu..."...we have to own our own temperaments..." Whao... Now that's perfect wisdom right there. I'll be honest. My pessimistic 'temperament' is owning me right now. Subbed once last week. Got a full request that sounded really promising the next day. Now I'm simply in wait-mode, which is making my brain explode with the negative. Augh! I know better. Positive thoughts, positive thoughts.... I am going to ponder your list above. Thanks so much for it! S.A. Larsenッhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06241633272588383935noreply@blogger.com